Help Others

First of all, the fact that you are here means you care and you are amazing! Fantastic!

Helping others, and supporting your loved one through feelings of anxiety, depression or anger,  is often far more simple than you might think. Our tendency, is often to over-sympathize (“you poor thing!”), over-analyze (“I think your problem is…”), or try to fix their feelings (“you should try…”).   The majority of the time all they really need from you is you.   They need to know you care, you are there for them and you are willing to listen without judgment, trying to control them, criticizing or blaming.

Another instinct is to share our own experiences, in a comparing fashion, for example, “I know how you feel, I had a terrible break up once and could not get out of bed for a week.”  Although this may seem helpful, the most helpful strategy is to ask questions and to reassure them simply that you are there for them.  One effective question is, ” Would you like to talk about this or would you prefer distraction?”   Emotions are like storms, eventually they do pass through, often with or without intervention.  When someone is in the storm, they simply need to know that you have their back and that the storm will in fact pass.  Often this is enough for them to process and vent their feelings, and then take productive action of their own accord.  Below are ways to help.